Executive Function Made Easier: Practical Strategies for Your 2e Child

If you’re parenting a child who is both wonderfully bright and wired a little differently, you’ve probably seen just how incredible their mind can be and how frustrated they can get when everyday tasks feel harder than they “should” be. Many twice-exceptional (2e) learners have incredible abilities, yet still face real challenges with executive functioning, communication, and day-to-day routines. 

The good news is that with the right support, your child can learn the skills that help them navigate school, friendships, and life with confidence. Below are realistic strategies you can try at home to help your 2e learner grow. 

Task Initiation: Helping Them Get Started 

Starting a task is often the biggest hurdle for kids. You can help by creating a clear, gentle on-ramp. Adults can help by breaking large, overwhelming tasks into very small steps. Whether it’s homework, cleaning, or getting ready for school, break the task into tiny, doable pieces. For example, be very explicit on each step involved in cleaning a room: pick up dirty laundry and put it in the laundry basket, clear off unnecessary items from surfaces like a bookshelf, dust or wipe down surfaces, vacuum the floor, etc. Small steps reduce overwhelm and create momentum. 

Another way you can help your children is by having them “externalize” their thinking. Ask your child to talk you through what needs to be done. If this feels hard, look up the directions together, read them, and discuss each step. This turns the task from something floating in their head into something concrete and shared. 

Finally, don’t underestimate the power of starting in teeny tiny increments. Have your child or teen set a stopwatch (rather than a countdown timer) and work for just five minutes. The goal is simply to begin. Most kids end up working longer once they get going, but even if they don’t, the small start still counts as success. 

Time Management: Making Time More Predictable 

Many neurodivergent kids struggle with estimating time, switching tasks, or sensing how long something will take. To help them improve their sense of time, have them keep track of how long certain routines actually take. Time a few common routines: morning prep, math homework, chores. The goal isn’t speed; it’s accuracy. Knowing “this really takes 20 minutes” helps them plan more realistically. A very handy tool in keeping track of the passage of time is the visual timer. A visual timer shows time disappearing, helping kids feel time passing. It also keeps them on task and creates a gentle sense of urgency.

Another visual strategy is to use simple blocks on a calendar: homework, break, dinner, reading. This helps kids see the rhythm of the day and understand how much time they truly have. Last but not least, building in buffer time is key. Transitions take energy. Adding small breaks or extra minutes between activities keeps the day smoother and lowers stress. 

Self-Advocacy: Teaching Them to Ask for What They Need 

For 2e kids, developing self-advocacy skills is one of the most important paths to long-term independence. It also builds confidence, resilience, and the ability to navigate not only school, but also eventually college and the workforce. Talk openly about your kids’ strengths and their challenges. When kids understand how their brain works, it becomes easier to explain what they need. If your child has accommodations, they should know: what their accommodations are, how to request them, and how to make sure they’re happening. Adults can help, but should gradually step back. You can still follow up behind the scenes to ensure support is in place. 

A helpful habit that you can help your children start now is to normalize asking for thinking time. Many neurodivergent kids need a few seconds longer to process information. Have them practice phrases at home like: “Can I have a moment to think?” or “I need a little more time before I answer.” This is an extremely valuable self-advocacy skill. In addition to asking for more thinking time, role-playing different scenarios can give children and teenagers the confidence to be prepared for when it actually happens. Examples of scenarios could be: clarifying directions (“I heard first I do this, and then I do this, is that right?”), asking a teacher for help (“I’m a little confused on what this means.”), and deciding roles with their peers for a group project (“I’d prefer to do this role, does that work for everyone?”). If speaking to a teacher is too intimidating, show your child how to write a clear, short email to their teachers. Brainstorm together and even draft it together if necessary. Writing emails to their teachers would also be a great way to practice advocating for their accommodations. Over time, scaffold less and less until they feel comfortable independently writing emails. 

An underutilized tool for self-advocacy is teachers’ office hours; schools may have varying names for this: flex period, resource period, student support time, etc. If your child says they know how to sign up, ask them to show you and have them sign up for a time soon with their teacher. It is especially great to go to teachers’ office hours before tests to prepare and ask any last minute questions and after tests to go over any lingering confusion or mistakes. If teachers don’t require advance sign ups, then have your child pick a day they are going to go ahead of time. Regardless, help your student create a simple agenda before they meet with their teacher. Have them list any specific questions or general topics they want explained. This helps them stay focused, reduces anxiety, and teaches a lifelong skill: how to prepare for a meeting. All of this is excellent preparation for college, where office hours are essential, and for future work when meeting with supervisors.

You’re Building Skills That Last a Lifetime 

Parenting a twice-exceptional child is a mix of joy, creativity, and problem-solving. Every strategy you teach, including task initiation, time management, and especially self-advocacy, sets your child up for a more confident future. 

These are the lifelong skills they’ll need in high school, college, and the workplace. You’re helping them build them step by step, with warmth, patience, and guidance.

About the Author

Mandy Hoff works as a learning specialist with the Schwab Learning Center at CHC. Mandy cares passionately about getting to know every individual person. Helping each person become self-reflective, and therefore self-aware, enhances their ability to learn, as well as serves their future lives. She creates strategies for each individual based on their particular strengths and interests. Previously, Mandy worked in the public school system for over eleven years. Her time there taught her to value collaboration, the impact of families on learners, and the beauty in cognitive diversity.