“But They Did It Yesterday!”: Fluctuating Capacity in 2e Kids

Your child can manage school, transitions, or everyday tasks one day, then struggle with those very same things the next. As a parent, you might wonder, “But they did it yesterday! Why can’t they do it today?”

Twice-exceptional (2e) kids can be capable, curious, and insightful while still struggling to access their abilities consistently. This session explores fluctuating capacity, how mental, emotional, sensory, and physical demands affect what a child can manage at any given time. We’ll look at how low-capacity days might show up and explore when to reduce demands, offer co-regulation, allow rest, or gently stretch skills.

Parents will learn to shift the question from “Why won’t they?” to “What might be making this harder today?” The goal isn’t to lower expectations forever, but to understand what support a child needs now while building skills and confidence over time.

About Erin Tee

Erin Tee is a neurodiversity and educational consultant, educator, coach, and parent. With an M.Ed. in Cognitive Diversity and a Certificate in Twice-Exceptional Education, she combines research-informed practice, practical strategies, and lived experience as an AuDHD parent of a twice-exceptional child to help families and educators find neurodiversity-affirming approaches that work in real life.